There's always a "but".

So...you know how I said I got off match? Well...I lied. I mean, I really haven't logged on in probably over a month, but I just did today because I actually got a message from someone that was more than just "hey u look hott. want 2 chat?"

Of course, upon further review, I'm not all that interested, but I did have my "daily 5" to check out, so I read through the profiles and actually stumbled upon 2 interesting men. Everything they said in their profiles sounded great! They seem very mature - looking for something more than just a friendship or a hook up, they like all sorts of different activities - things I've wanted to try and things that scare me to death but could be exciting to try one day. A sense of humor (I can tell in their writing), good looks, kind smiles. So, what's his "but", right? There's always a but.

I know I can be long-winded at times but....

If you're a regular reader, you know that I have a tendancy to ramble at times. I'm sorry. I can't help it. Sometimes I just can't seem to put my thoughts into the most simplistic and concise sentences. Yet you dear readers still humor me, read the whole thing and hopefully by the end still feel compelled to comment and for that, I thank you. So, in the spirit of all of this thankfulness and appreciation, I'm going to cut right to the chase for this post. Over the weekend, around 11:30 or so Saturday night, I received the LONGEST match email I've ever received. Ever. And I simply HAVE to share it with you guys. Enjoy!
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match say we''re compatible i tend to agree, you?

Roses are Red

Morning fellow hot messes!

So I've recently been following My So-Called Online Dating Life (if you follow my other bloggers to the right, I'm sure you've noticed) and this single 30-something brought up the long-distance e-dating predicament. Ugh. As if online dating isn't hard enough - you want to throw 2000 miles between you as well? NOT my idea of a fun time. You'll remember a while back when I had some Romeo from Illinois contact me about a band that he was trying to promote and his girlfriend had just left him for someone on facebook, right? Well, as I was commenting on My So-Called Online Dating Life this morning, I received another interesting email from a potential online suitor. It's short and sweet, and by sweet I mean, weird and creepy. Here goes!

Back in the saddle...

Well, not quite "the saddle" per se. But yes...I'm going on another "blind" date tonight. Since Chandler pulled the slow fade and I've heard nothing but radio silence for 2 weeks now, I've decided that I'm ready for a new dating prospect. I've purged myself of Chandler and my wishful thinking that his phone just died or some other lame excuse - he is no more and I'm over it.

So instead, I'm going to meet Will tonight. I really don't know much about him yet except that he's a band teacher and has a passion for music (Will Shuster anyone? Glee? I know Glee Club isn't the same as band but level with me here). Now I never took band in high school or anything but I do have a passion for music. I'm just hoping he doesn't reek of band-geekiness.

The Game: To play or not to play?

So I don't want to put all my eggs in one basket and I don't want to jinx myself like I talked about last week but I'm beginning to feel more and more like my new-found love-interest is taking on a larger role in my life than I expected him to at this point. And it's hard to transition. You know, you go from like single-ready-to-mingle, I-live-only-for-myself-and-don't-have-to-answer-to-anyone - to all of a sudden being like i-should-invite-him-to-my-non-profit-event-in-3-weeks-just-to-get-it-on-his-calendar-holy-shit-what-am-i-saying-that's-three-weeks-away! It's quite unnerving.

My love life is like a box of chocolates

Tis true. You really never know what you're gonna get.

Thank you Forrest Gump. Wise words my friend. Wise words.

For those of you who've been keeping up with my e-dating disasters, you may be wondering why I haven't touched on this subject in almost a month. Welp, you've been patient long enough and I suppose it's about time that I fill you in on my newest dating endeavor.

Hope my Lay-dar is working this weekend

Welp, it's official. Almost. I have 2 dates this weekend. Hanging with Adam on Friday and just firming up details like where & when with Cameron for Saturday. Yikes! 2 dates in 2 days? And slap a wedding on the end of that and who knows, I might meet a potential 3rd date by the end of the weekend! I really need to give props to the girls over at WTF is up with my Love Life because they definitely got it right when they put a name to what most single ladies consider their dating life balancing act (the Gaggle). You might remember me referencing Jess & Becky back in June and their belief that we live in a post-dating world. Well they're also the inventors of the Gaggle. Yes, the gaggle is that group of guys that you constantly have circling your love life. You're not in full-fledged relationships with any of them because - hello slut - but they're all guys that you've entertained the idea of dating/sleeping with to some degree. And there are 10 different types of guys who make up this Gaggle:

E-dating = Overwhelming

I feel like all anyone is talking about anymore is e-dating. 2 months ago, it wasn't anywhere NEAR my radar and now, it's everywhere. For example, I've found it with the good, the "interesting", the bad, and the fugly.

And I'm sure that I'm subconsciously stumbling upon these articles and websites because I'm part of that world right now, but it really seems odd that everywhere I turn, there they are. Something else I've realized recently is that online dating is all about how much of yourself you want to put into it - that's how much you'll get out of it. I find myself getting wrapped up into the emails and the winks when I've found a guy who suits my interests and is a good conversationalist. But when there's a week of lull from their end, there's a lack of effort and time spent on the site on my end. This week has been slightly overwhelming.

Pleased to Announce, Ted Bundy is no Longer a Threat at this Time

Wouldn't you know that as soon as I begin to write someone off...they surprise me. I thought Adam might have been a serial killer, but apparently that's not the case. Yep...I have another date lined up with him. That's right...a SECOND date with the same guy. This looks somewhat promising. But I absolutely am NOT getting my hopes up just yet. See in this post-dating world we live in, right around the 3rd or 4th date is when I usually lose their interest or I lose interest in them. I guess because I've been out with them enough to realize that this is not someone I can see myself with long term and vice-versa. Which is simply part of the dating world and something I've come to accept. But in the past, these "dates" I speak of, were more like group hangs and meeting at bars with friends. There was a certain "comfort level" established by parties we already knew so that if we decided we weren't that fond of one another, we could play it off casually, or if we did hit it off, we could peel off from the group. 

And then there was One

So, as I mentioned the other day, I have acquired 3 dates so far from online dating - not bad for being a member for less than 3 weeks, right? And that's after sifting through some of the shadier emails and propositions I've received. But those are for another post, another day. Yep, I've found 3 eligible men who I've at least entertained the idea of meeting and going on a date with. And so far, I've followed through on two of the three. The third is tonight. And I have to say that while the experience has been an interesting one thus far, it hasn't been exactly what I expected it to be. The commercials make everyone look so happy! You see the pretty woman meet the handsome man and shake hands, both with huge smiles on their faces. You just know they instantly click! And then the shot cuts to them, present-day, with arms wrapped around each other, smiling and talking about how they've truly found the love of their lives. Welp, I'm here to let you in on a little secret: That's not how it works.

Watch This! Wednesday - Bed Intruder Song

So by now a lot of you may have already seen this but since I've been MIA for a couple of weeks for WTW, thought I'd share it with anyone who HASN'T seen it yet. I was going to make some long convoluted connection between e-dating and rapists but for several reasons I don't think it's appropriate.
1) While I've been on 2 dates thus far, neither have resulted in so much as an uncomfortable sideways glance, much less made me feel violated in any way/shape/form.

E-Dating continued...

Ok - so last time I blogged I was just getting ready to try out the jungle of the online dating world. See what it's like first-hand. Because there's all this talk about "is there a stigma" when it comes to online dating? And what better way to find out than to experience it yourself. And what have I discovered over the last few weeks? Well...a LOT. When I was setting up my eharmony profile (which took over an hour), I sort of live-blogged. You see, I'm still somewhat of a skeptic when it comes to online dating because how well can these sites really match you up with the right person? So below, I'll share with you some of the thoughts that ran through my head when I was signing up for the free trial: