The Unavailable Career Booster turned Ego Booster

Some of you may remember my friends over at WTF is up with my love life!? and the amazing knowledge they've dropped on the world over the last couple of years regarding millenials and the post-dating world we live in today. If not, definitely check out their website and keep reading because I'll touch briefly on a few of their Gaggle definitions in this post.

Could my Gaggle be Evolving this Valentine's Day?

Well this is absolutely NOT what I expected to happen this Valentine's Day. There's a new guy in my gaggle as of Friday night around 2am. I know what you're thinking. 2am. Friday night. Hmm...isn't it true that nothing good ever happens after 2am? But you'd be wrong. I know what else you might be thinking and no, I didn't make any poor decisions. I only exchanged numbers with a tall attractive man and he may or may not end up being a key player in my gaggle pretty soon.

If this is the closest thing I have to a gaggle right now, FML.

You remember the Gaggle right? Well mine's been fairly non-existent recently and I think that's primarily my own doing. I've gone from "fairly fit and willing to date/putting myself out there" to "feeling fat and watching my roommate start a relationship and not wanting to meet anybody." So I've put what little semblance of a Gaggle I had on hold and I'm trying to focus on myself right now. My San-Fran bestie and I are starting a weight loss blog here (feel free to follow!) so if I'm lax on this blog, you can check out that one.

Despite my best efforts to cleanse myself of all men over the past few weeks, I found myself in the middle of the most pathetic gaggle-fest ever when I woke up Saturday morning. Friday was an interesting turn of events to say the least.

Crazy Little Thing Called Love

Well, I'll be damned if I ever figure this out. The games we play and the crazy hoops we jump through for the guy or girl that we think we're crazy about are beyond me. I find it funny that when we're not looking for love it falls in our laps and when we actively seek it out, it's one dead end after another. Why is that? And why is it that some women manage to NEVER be single, and some women can't do anything to get out of their dry spells (unless they resort to prostitution...which isn't an option for any of us with a moral fiber in our bodies)? These questions go through many of our minds on a weekly basis. And I think part of it is society's pressure - our parents were married at 22 (or younger in some cases) and here we are at 25...why don't we have husbands yet? Hey-zeus Christo, mom, get out of my head!

The Friend Zone Part 2

Well, here we go again with The Friend Zone. You'll remember in my last post, I talked about The Nice Guy and how to move out of the Friend Zone if you find yourself in such a situation with a girl you've fallen for. But today, I'm actually going to hit on something different. Last week I stumbled upon a new site called Dudeships and found it to be quite interesting. Written by a few guys, this particular blog is adamant about the fact that guys and girls CANNOT be friends - as clearly displayed in the classic When Harry Met Sally movie back in the 80s. And to some degree, I can agree with it. Instead of being "friends" with the opposite sex, these bloggers believe there's such a thing called a "dudeship" in which they define different levels of relationships with women who are not their girlfriends.

Shut up and PAY ATTENTION!

What are YOU doing this coming December? Yes, all of December. Ok, I'll give you the few days around Xmas and NYE off because I guess *family* is important. And as for God's chosen people, you can take your Chaunaka (I still don't know how to spell that) but keep SOME time in December open. Especially if you're single. And especially if you're a lady. *Why?* you ask. Because Berryfine and I have stumbled upon something spectacular. Jess and Becky of WTFisupwithmylovelife are coming to ATLANTA in December!!! And they want to interview YOU and ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is of course, if you're cultivating a Gaggle.

Serial Killers vs Fairy Tales

Well, I really thought I'd developed a good read on this one. But apparently I was wrong. Pretty sure Chandler is a serial killer. You remember my theories on serial killers, right? And maybe I'm just telling myself he's a serial killer to help me sleep better at night. (Wait, does that even make sense...? actually it does) Surely it isn't anything I've done that would be the reason he hasn't called/texted/emailed me in a week, right??? He's just emotionally and physically incapable of continuing to pursue me because he realizes just how much he likes me and how perfect I am for him, therefore, he must "systematically and methodically kill every real opportunity at a relationship".

My love life is like a box of chocolates

Tis true. You really never know what you're gonna get.

Thank you Forrest Gump. Wise words my friend. Wise words.

For those of you who've been keeping up with my e-dating disasters, you may be wondering why I haven't touched on this subject in almost a month. Welp, you've been patient long enough and I suppose it's about time that I fill you in on my newest dating endeavor.

Hope my Lay-dar is working this weekend

Welp, it's official. Almost. I have 2 dates this weekend. Hanging with Adam on Friday and just firming up details like where & when with Cameron for Saturday. Yikes! 2 dates in 2 days? And slap a wedding on the end of that and who knows, I might meet a potential 3rd date by the end of the weekend! I really need to give props to the girls over at WTF is up with my Love Life because they definitely got it right when they put a name to what most single ladies consider their dating life balancing act (the Gaggle). You might remember me referencing Jess & Becky back in June and their belief that we live in a post-dating world. Well they're also the inventors of the Gaggle. Yes, the gaggle is that group of guys that you constantly have circling your love life. You're not in full-fledged relationships with any of them because - hello slut - but they're all guys that you've entertained the idea of dating/sleeping with to some degree. And there are 10 different types of guys who make up this Gaggle: